SEX AND THE MOTHER CITY VOLUME 2 - Don't get mad, get busy

Forget revenge ladies, that is like so 2008. It only ends up making you look lonely and desperate, not too mention totally psycho.  All of you know what I’m talking about; we’ve all done it. You are out with your friends and are constantly looking over your shoulder for HIM to walk in. You’re sure he’ll be here tonight, its where all his friends hang out. You don’t listen to anything anyone else says to you, but instead you just nod vacuously while they go on and on blah blah blah. Then HE walks in and it starts. The ‘I’m so over you’ act. The outrageous flirting with guys that you would never touch, the over the top downing of shots at the bar and the raucous laughter aimed at nothing in particular.

Sorry to disappoint but they got the memo on this one, they know this trick. Quite frankly, its shamefully obvious and only ends in you doing ‘the cringe’ the next day. You know that too, the shivers down your spine when you soberly dwell on your behaviour the night before.

NO, no, there is a much better way to make him squirm in his own pathetic juices.  This one is also a win-win because the end result is him lying in a pool of his own tears and you not really caring either way.  It’s so simple that it actually borders on genius: Get busy. That’s it, the magic formula.

First of all, get out a pen and paper and make a wish list. NO, not that one. Not ‘I wish he would call’, ‘I wish he would realize what he’s missing.’ Throw that list in the trash, better yet, burn that little baby. I am talking about the wish list to end all wish lists. An A-Z of all the things you would love to do if you had the time. We all have one. For example, learn Spanish or take up dance class. Spend more time with friends or visit more art galleries. We all have reams of things we wish we had time for. Well guess what, now that you have been freed you have the time.  Don’t sit at home crying into your lonely glass of red wine. Embrace this unexpected gift of time, use it for good. Before you know it your whole world will have opened up. Enrique the Spanish teacher may have asked you out. A weekly dance class will not only do wonders for the body but will give you some fabulous new moves on the dance floor. You may feel even more loved by spending time with friends. Getting busy will open you up to a world of new experiences and give you a newfound confidence to embrace life and yourself.

Best of all, nothing makes a guy feel like he made the biggest mistake of his life than seeing his ex glowing and genuinely happy…